Micro-Distortions: The First Signs of Abuse People Are Taught to Ignore

Abuse rarely starts loud. It starts with small distortions that make you doubt what you heard, what you felt, and what you know. These early microaggressions are the foundation of coercive control, and most people are trained to overlook them. This post breaks down the first signs of abuse people often ignore—and why the right response isn’t communication. It’s leaving.